Against Gender Non-Conformity

Accepting reality does mean accepting stereotypes

It’s often been repeated by feminists, gay advocacy organizations, and even prominent detransitioners themselves that part of the process of detransition is to accept one’s own innate gender nonconformity, to embrace the desire to be weirdly feminine as a guy or oddly masculine as a girl. Often repeated, yes… but is it true?

No. No it isn’t. Not in my case, not in yours, not in anyone’s. It is a fiction that propels the gender-bending of the present further into the future.

When I began this blog over a year ago, the predominant take throughout all of the largest trans-focused gender-critical and emerging “dissident” or “politically homeless” spaces was that the girls are running away from being women while the boys are all trying to be girls. Allegedly, it never happens vice versa. Girls are surgically altering themselves not to approximate males, but to run away from their own sexed realities. Boys, on the other hand, are either gay and in denial or barely-closeted fetishists who are …